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Paladine
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I'm through here for awhile. I'll not ask the moderators to unregister my name, as I hope to return here when something either here or in me has changed from its current state. That might never happen, happen tomorrow, or anyplace in between. I suspect this isn't the last I'll write here.

In the unlikely event that I don't return, I wish you all well and would like to thank you for the good conversations, advice, and friendships I've shared with many of you through the years. Anyone who wishes to contact me may do so at the e-mail or AIM provided in my profile.

Peace.

Edited to Add: My departure is surely no fault of the moderators, whose dedication to making this a better place I truly do respect, nor of any Ornerian but myself. A friend of mine suggested that I might need a time out, and I agree with him.

[ September 11, 2006, 05:00 AM: Message edited by: Paladine ]

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Loki
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I took a long one, mostly because just being around these people makes me feel like an idiot. Every time I want to post something I have to force myself to hit the 'Add Reply' button otherwise I overthink it and just don't post anything. Anyways, hope you come back around.
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Hope you find what you're looking for, Paladine.
Peace2U

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rightleft22
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In a recent lunch seminar I attended on “how to confront difficult situations without making things worse” the first rule was to focus on the behaviour/situation not the person. Really a kind of love the sinner but not the sin approach.
The problem I find is the difficulty in separating the two, spearing behaviour from the person. Tell me that I’m doing something wrong, said something stupid and more likely then not I’ll feel that I am wrong, stupid… my self esteem takes a big hit.
Confront someone’s behaviour and nine times out of ten the conversations moves to the person and the dialog becomes aggressively defensive….
Today’s emphasis of self esteem over self acceptance gets in the way of honest dialog… it might seem to be semantics but the change in perception does make a difference.
We are more then what others think of us, more then a single action, belief, thought, hope, work, idea, accomplishment…. If we judge ourselves by just one of those things, I am a good worthwhile person, (can have self-esteem,) because I did, I though, I believe ‘this or that’ we place ourselves in a corner where each idea, thought, accomplishment, what have you, must be defended at all costs. It becomes a matter of identity; in that moment a single behaviour becomes our identity, and our vision becomes clouded.

Strange how we allow the opinions of people who don’t really know us to have a deeper impact on how we feel about ourselves then those that actually know us.

My prime use of this forum is to help me understand what it is that I think. If others respond to what I have to say and or agree great, if not or if I come off badly that’s fine too, the focus is on what I can learn not who I am or appear to be in the eyes of others.

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canadian
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May Odin watch over you and Thor's might Mjolnir guard your journeys.


So much better than the pelegius farewell, but not as entertaining...ah well. Take 'er easy. And give her some frikken smoochies, too.

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Hope to see ya around again, good luck and have a pleasant break,

LetterRip

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Pete at Home
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I hope you come back soon, Paladine. I think this departure note of yours is true to how you've generally comported yourself on Ornery -- as a man of depth and honor.
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[Frown]
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Sayonara, Paladine-san.
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Tashi Delek, Paladine-la.
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Daruma28
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A self-imposed break is I think vital and necessary from a place such as this for ones own mental well being.

That's what I've kinda been doing.

You'll be back Paladine. In the meantime, enjoy your vacation.

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Richard Dey
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Atlantic City, Paladine? [Wink]
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Paladine
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Alright, a few weeks away from here helped me regain some perspective, and I think I'm ready to come back. It occurred to me yesterday, on what was likely my grandfather's last birthday, that life's too short to let petty and trivial things get in between you and the things you enjoy. Thanks for the kind words. [Wink]
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FiredrakeRAGE
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Wait - you were gone? [Razz]
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kenmeer livermaile
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"It occurred to me yesterday, on what was likely my grandfather's last birthday, that life's too short to let petty and trivial things get in between you and the things you enjoy."

Especially the things we most enjoy here at Ornery:

"petty and trivial"

and

"things get in between"

Gossip and sex! Hear hear! Waiter! More whine!

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0Megabyte
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Well, then. Welcome back. All's finally right again in the world. [Big Grin]
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Welcome back to Ornery. You are still wrong.
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Richard Dey
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Oh, and all is forgiven, Paladine. Besides, I had a question for you.

How do you read:

Viribus mari victoria

It's the motto of the War College.

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